How Can You Mend A Broken Heart?
One of my first poems was a song that was of course never recorded or sung by anyone but me. Surprised? I was 17 and in what I thought was love. He left and this song came to be. Don't sit now and stare at the phone, get it through your head he's gone, when you hear a car don't run to the door, remember now he'll be back no more.....He's gone he's gone His love you can't share, now you know he didn't care.... and on and on and on it went. And by the way, he did come back, but I was gone. That broken heart lasted a couple of months, and as the saying goes, this too shall pass, and it did.
When we are young it doesn't take much to break our hearts. The smallest most trivial things seem huge and all-consuming. As we grow older and more calloused it takes a little more to get to our hearts. I think we harden our hearts purposely so they won't break so easily. What heals broken hearts? Is it time? Is it new love replacing the one that is lost? Is it maturity causing us to realize things that seem so important really aren't?
I was surprised to find there is something doctors have identified as 'Broken-heart syndrome'
A sudden shock, such as hearing news of a death in the family, can trigger a condition that appears to be a massive heart attack, but the victim suffers no lasting damage.
The condition, which researchers have dubbed the "broken-heart syndrome," mimics a heart attack, leading doctors to believe the heart has suffered severe damage. Researcher Cassidy Smith of John Hopkins University had this to say about the condition.,"Massive heart attacks don't get better within a matter of days. Broken-heart syndrome, which often is misdiagnosed as a heart attack, ultimately will account for a fraction of the 7 million heart attacks that occur in the USA each year. This is real, and it's important to recognize." Smith described a patient who had experienced what was described as a massive heart attack after learning of her mother's death. Within a short time, all symptoms passed. Was her broken heart mended?
The Bee Gees asked the question in their famous song long ago but never gave an answer.
And how can you mend a broken heart?
How can you stop the rain from falling down?
How can you stop the sun from shining?
What makes the world go round?
How can you mend this broken man?
How can a loser ever win?
Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again.
This week my heart has been feeling a little broken. An overwhelming sadness seems to be around. I really felt as if my heart was aching inside. I thought of the Bee Gees song and wondered who were they asking to please help mend the broken heart and let them live again. Was it God? Was that song some type of prayer? I don't think that is what they intended but I kind of used it for that purpose.
I asked God how could I mend this heart. I asked how to get this rain and sadness to leave. I asked how could I have joy replace this sadness and get on with my life. After I talked to God and myself for a while, I talked to a friend. My friend gave me a verse which gives the answer to the question.
- Psalms 34:17, 18 Is anyone crying for help? GOD is listening, ready to rescue you. If your heart is broken, you'll find GOD right there; if you're kicked in the gut, he'll help you catch your breath. (THE MESSAGE)
As I read those verses I felt God's gentle hands reaching down to lift me up. I felt Him place His loving arms around me and comfort me. I felt Him take His finger and wipe away my tears. I took a deep breath and the pain deep inside started to subside.
God can mend broken hearts. God can mend broken lives. God can mend broken people.
No matter what is breaking your heart today, look to God the healer of all diseases and the healer of broken hearts. Remember, this too shall pass, and there is hope of no permanent damage.